Hello everyone, Thank you so much for choosing my content to read. Hope you all are doing great and must be in a preparation of celebrating your Mother’s day! Since my this post is relatively about Mother’s as one of my fellow writer friend Diana has inspired me to think about this post by her earlier post Mother’s Day Gift Ideas for 2021 which leads me to altogether a different perspective. Since the ideas shared by her were very much helpful and suitable but somehow it traversed me on a different track.
Earlier I’ve planned to get it ready and publish it on occasion of Mother’s Day, but later on I realized that this does not rely or restricted to any occasion, hence making it today. Hope you’ll enjoy reading it.
Reading it louder this time!
This week I was having a chit chat with some of my friends which I habitually do, sometimes over call or by meeting them face to face. But this time one thing went analogous during chit chat with all of them and that was “How’s your mother and father”? This question was not often asked but this time it took place every time with each of my friend. I didn’t comprehend this resemblance at the same time but while I was having my dinner that day it unexpectedly strikes my mind and compelled me to contemplate about it.
Since I am a night owl, I tried digging down this question that night with a peace of mind and then the first realization was pandemic, because of which friends do care and are concerned about each other’s parents. It feels very nice and humbled when someone asked so, isn’t it? This is it, at that time I thought I’ve had my answer and sidetracked into something else, but while going to bed again there was a feel like something is still mislaid, pandemic could be the answer but my heart was looking for something else here.
Next night this thought went on and on in my head, but I was still clueless. Another day one of my colleague called for some office work and we were just chatting, and I asked him the same question, he courteously answered that “his mother is well” at that moment I got my answer for which I was struggling all night long and finally, I drive myself to very usual conclusion that, this world is so fortunate enough since God has made two priceless creature called “Mother” and “Father” and gifted all of us by their existence.
Envisage a child has never seen his/her father but just heard and think of a mother who is suffering a lot to alleviate her children’s lives. Do you have any idea the daily struggle of such mothers? What she would have answered when her children ask about nonappearance of a father innocently? How she would be managing all the stuffs single handedly?
I believe, such mothers are truly a role model for the society. Despite of being single owner she plays many protagonists in the life to endure in the society along with her children. However, the most imperative role which such mothers plays in her life is of a father. Just look at the below how a mother put her toes into a father’s shoe.
1. Goes to work daily and knob the office tantrums.
2. Fulfill all the conceivable wishes of her children by not showing the struggle behind it.
3. Plans the future of children towards betterment.
4. Protect whole family for well-being.
5. Develops a discipline in family nature.
6. Makes children secure by just her existence in the life.
7. Ensures to give a better life to live out.
8. Nurture and spend time with children whenever they are in need.
9. Offers acceptance and compassion.
10. Dealing with the whole society to project their children in a best possible manner.
11. Last but not the least, never shows the stressful temperament.
She performs all the roles and responsibilities handled by a father of the family. Overall a mother tries to be a perfect father figure for their children.
Now a question for you all here. Is it obligatory to be a male by gender to become a father?
My answer is “NO”. As far as I feel, to become a father it is not at all necessary. More than all the above roles and responsibilities frolicked by a mother, the most significant thing which she entails is the “BEHAVIOR” of a father which makes and fortify her to subsist in this society. Such behavior of a mother brings up altogether a diverse personality of a mother and instigates the society to accept. It also boosts the children to accept a mother as their role model instead of mislaid the existence of a father in the family. When a mother stood with such behavior in front of the society, she becomes an stimulus for others too and the proudest eyes are of her children.
This happen me to conclude that gender is only the identity given by God, however, to shadow any roles and responsibilities is not dependent, all we need is to adopt such “BEHAVIOR” to cope up with such actions. Would say only one line here “Fatherhood is not a relationship or a responsibility, it’s a BEHAVOR”. Hence whenever you come across and meet such mother, respect them, and try to learn something if you can.
This thought has opened too many doors here to me, hence I’ll come back to showcase another side of such instance with a sequel. Hope you’ll enjoy the reading and find it helpful.