Hi there, hope you all having a good time this week! Thank you for being here and choosing my content to give a read! This time it’s all about the disagreements, difference of opinions and multiple POVs! Hope you’ll enjoy it! 🙂
When you think you’re right, that doesn’t mean people who don’t agree with you are wrong always. We live in a world which has the population of 7.9 billion approximately (and still counting) till date bestowing to (worldometer). Now when I say population, it also means 7.9 billion brains with immeasurable number of thoughts and opinions which comes with many influences and when there are multiple factors intricate, indeed the viewpoint also varies. This happens in our day to day life as well, even after carrying similar thoughts. The figure 7.9 billion is not just a population of world, moreover it comprises 235 listed countries, 6 listed regions, approximately 8 major religions (includes multiple sub-religions and variants regionally), multiple genders. Even in a single family of 3-4 members such sort of disagreements takes place too.
As stated above, that there are many influences which generates the difference of opinions, it varies individually however, majorly it could be based on your “mindset”, “past experience”, “surroundings”, “culture/tradition”, “sociodemographic”, “generation” “principles”, “beliefs” etc. These are just few of them otherwise it’s a gigantic count. But that is not the actual matter of concern though, the most substantial question ascends here is how to dodge such difference of opinions and have analogous POV.
Let’s say on a blank paper a code is cited by your boss, and you’ve been told that it’s alphanumeric. (The code is “9L”). While you get that paper, you see it as “76”. Instantly you give a call to your boss affirming the code is not alphanumeric, it’s only numeric. Your boss disagrees to it and the same way you do, and the line of wiles and excuses go on and on. To figure it out you’ve been asked to come office, you reach there and display the paper to your boss. Seeing the paper, your boss starts laughing and says, “the way you’ve hold the paper is completely the opposite direction of what it should be. Just rotate the paper in opposite direction and tell what you see now”. You also underway laughing and ultimately both of you came on same page. The happy and satisfactory ending!
How to avoid and/or diminish the Disagreements?
Well, if I’ve to say in one line then it would be “Put your foot in others’ shoe”. However, technically up to some extent it’s not that easy even too tough to do so. But it’s not impossible. The above illustration was enough to elaborate I believe, though have listed down five key aspects as per my acquaintance to evade and/or diminish the difference of opinions. Let me take you through it one by one.
Forget your POV
The best way to flinch is to forget the past occurrence or discussion and your own POV. Start with a blank mind so that it could be calm to deal with the situation/person. It’s like you’re consenting others to paint on your blank canvas and trying to understand their art. Make them comprehend that you’ve flushed out the past and don’t have any standpoint now. Try to imagine and realize the situation from their perspective. When you do so, the one who has diverse viewpoint might feel bit comfortable to make a point in front of you bit briefly and in descriptive manner. Just listen to him/her and try to recognize the reason behind, you never know perhaps you could learn something new from it. Then same way you can request or ask him/her to allow to make your point and possibly he/she could get your side as well, the way you get it.
Keep the EGO aside
Whenever there is a matter of disagreement, it is better not to take it personally. Otherwise it would spark your egoism and collapse the whole situation. As per human tendency it has been perceived that most of the disagreements takes place because of egoism, especially when two opposite genders are involved. Hence it is better to keep your ego aside and try to make it in a generic way. This will show up your wisdom and based on that, your opponent may also fetch him/herself down, apparently you both can laid your points one by one in front of each other and work out on conceivable outcome.
Analyze the situation
When it comes to analyze, first step to start is by asking “Why?”. Most of the time we judge the statement without knowing the reason behind. Try to know and realize the reason behind the disagreement, since we never know under what circumstances the opponent has disagreed to the statement. Once you get to know the reason, possibly you may agree to it or you could at least come to know the intentions behind it. Same way you also can keep your reason in front for disagreement and after knowing it others may also get your point in a better way. When both the parties are cognizant and understand the reason, it always helps to take care of such sort of situations going forward and could avoid the disagreements. Probably it could produce a bond between both the parties which is a great sign of agreement.
It’s OKAY to apologize
Apology is the sign of wisdom and the best way to make a new start. No one gets disrespected if apologized, hence it is perfectly okay to do it. While disagreement takes place, you can simply apologize for your behavior or actions. Seeing your wisdom, others may melt down and come back to you with a positive approach to sort out the disagreement together and opens the door of healthy discussion. With a fresh start and healthy discussion, difference of opinions gets override smoothly.
Create a common platform
Common platform is a place where you can invite everyone to comprehend and divulge the POV of both the parties, and make all of them aware about how you and your opponent dealt with the disagreement by following all or any of the above four ways. It will help others to understand and realize how to deal with such disagreements whenever faced. Conceivably you may get some more better and smart ways to deal with it from others by listening to them. Indeed, it is all up to an individual whether to take it or leave it.
Keeping personal POV and ego sideway helps to realize others. Try to distinguish the reason behind disagreement to analyze and understand which aids you to know others better. Elect the wisdom and apologize to instigate or sort out the disagreements. Forming common platform will assist you and others to know how to deal with such situations. If we contemplate all the above pointers with a constructive approach, I believe it helps to avoid or diminish the difference of opinions. As a result, there could be a possibility of better agreements, understandings, knowledge enhancement, etc. In worst case if it doesn’t work for you, then it is better to circumvent and forget the instance and move on forward without zero regrets. Choose the wisdom, forgive others and yourself for whatsoever happened and make a fresh start.
Last but not at all the least, would like to thank you all for reading it! Would be glad to have your thoughts and reviews on this! Also would like to know from if you’ve some better ways out to work out the disagreements and bringing the various POVs on single platform to make things goes well with the world as much as we can! 🙂